We all have insecurities that make it harder to feel confident at times. My biggest insecurity is that I am constantly embarrassing myself. Feeling that way makes me second-guess what I say or how I\u2019m acting. I get so self-conscious that I sometimes find myself acting like someone I\u2019m not.<\/p>\n
It might sound strange to someone who doesn’t get it, but there are perfectly\u00a0reasonable explanations for why people like me may feel like we can’t get things right. Most of the time, they learned toxic lessons when they were younger that caused them to have this belief about themselves.<\/p>\n
If someone almost always feels embarrassed, they usually learned these rough lessons growing up<\/h2>\n1. There’s something wrong with them<\/h3>\n
If you feel embarrassed all the time, you\u2019re probably not very confident in who you are. Some people try to change their behavior so they can act like whatever they think just enough looks like. Changing who you are rarely works to make you feel more confident, though. You have to change how you see yourself.<\/p>\n Kids who were raised to be embarrassed easily were taught that they didn\u2019t do things the way normal people did or that their behavior was wrong. They were either too loud or too energetic, and when they were scolded for it, it created a deep-seated insecurity that there is something inherently wrong with them.<\/p>\n RELATED: Parents Who Raise Less Anxious Kids Usually Say 20 Phrases In Casual Conversation<\/strong><\/p>\n One of the biggest contributors to why I feel so easily embarrassed is my emotions. I tend to be a little sensitive, and it makes me get upset about everything. Even when my life is going great, I\u2019ll start crying if my friend\u2019s dog dies or they get fired.<\/p>\n A lot of people who feel this way were called dramatic when they were little, but hurting when others are in pain isn\u2019t dramatic. It\u2019s actually a\u00a0big signal of empathy. Still, these people believe they feel too much or too deeply, and therefore\u00a0they are easily ashamed of being sensitive.<\/p>\n RELATED: Fully Grown Adults Who Deeply Resent Their Parents Usually Experienced 11 Hard Things As Kids<\/strong><\/p>\n Another thing that makes me anxious about being embarrassed is someone telling me to be quiet. I was kind of a talkative kid, and so I was always told I should listen. That\u2019s a good rule in general, but when kids are told to be silent all the time, they can start to\u00a0internalize the message. They may think they talk too much and that everyone\u2019s sick of listening to them. They\u2019ll start to believe it\u2019s better to be quiet even when they\u2019re in a situation where they don\u2019t have to be, like at dinner with friends.<\/p>\n Some kids also think they should be quiet because their parents made them feel silly when they did speak. They were mocked for stating the obvious or being told they aren\u2019t funny. It\u2019s made them feel like they should be quiet to avoid being made fun of again.<\/p>\n RELATED: Quiet People Who Listen Way More Than They Talk Usually Share 11 Exceptional Traits<\/strong><\/p>\n A lot of people who find them embarrassed often believe it because their parents didn\u2019t give them the kind of unconditional love they deserved as a kid. Maybe their parents always complained they were too needy. Then, when they needed something, they\u2019d be super sweet to make sure their child helped them.<\/p>\n Kids raised in that environment grew up experiencing\u00a0conditional love. It manipulated them into trusting their parents that they\u2019ll be kinder in the future. It also teaches them that they don\u2019t deserve to be cared for and nurtured unless they behave a certain way and keep other people happy, no matter the cost to their own sense of self.<\/p>\n RELATED: 8 Things Most Wives Believe Are Unconditional Love But Are Actually Just A Lack Of Self-Respect<\/strong><\/p>\n People who were taught that they should be ashamed of themselves usually grew up not trusting their parents to be reliable. Their parents probably overemphasized independence, or the kid learned it from them not being there. If their parents made excuses about why they\u2019re unable to help them, that kid will probably grow up to think they have too many issues.<\/p>\n They\u2019ll feel like a burden if they go to their friends for advice. They\u2019ll probably tell themselves that their problems are their problems and it\u2019s their responsibility to handle them, which prevents them from getting some pretty valuable advice.<\/p>\n RELATED: People Who Never Ask For Help Usually Have These 8 Reasons<\/strong><\/p>\n When kids grow up having their needs ignored by their parents, they start to accept bad behaviors from other people as well. Say a girl who feels like embarrassed easily has a boyfriend who never makes time for her. She may feel hurt, but she won\u2019t necessarily blame him because she\u2019s been\u00a0raised to believe it\u2019s okay for people to ignore her needs.<\/p>\n These kinds of people grew up devaluing their needs because they already felt ashamed to ask for more. When they believe they require too much, they start to ignore their needs as well. This can cause them to stop taking care of themselves and run into some serious physical and mental health issues.<\/p>\n![\"little](\"https:\/\/www.yourtango.com\/sites\/default\/files\/image_blog\/2026-07\/people-who-constantly-feel-embarrassed-usually-learned-theres-something-wrong-with-them.png\" "\\"people")
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3. It’s better to be quiet<\/h3>\n
4. They only deserve conditional love<\/h3>\n
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6. It’s okay for people to ignore their needs<\/h3>\n
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