{"id":489,"date":"2026-07-29T21:34:38","date_gmt":"2026-07-29T21:34:38","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/replyguru.online\/?p=489"},"modified":"2026-07-29T21:34:38","modified_gmt":"2026-07-29T21:34:38","slug":"most-men-are-bad-at-eating-pussy-heres-how-to-be-great","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/replyguru.online\/?p=489","title":{"rendered":"Most men are bad at eating pussy. Here\u2019s how to be great"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><br \/>\n<br \/><img decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/substack-post-media.s3.amazonaws.com\/public\/images\/acb2423e-58cd-49bd-9a9f-55f24faaefd0_6000x4000.jpeg\" \/><\/p>\n<div dir=\"auto\">\n<blockquote>\n<p><strong>New:<\/strong><span> I just went deep on this with Amy Baldwin of Shameless Sex over on the Love Drive podcast. Watch below or <\/span>listen on your favorite podcast app<span>. <\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<div id=\"youtube2-NPy-cfVyuMw\" data-attrs=\"{&quot;videoId&quot;:&quot;NPy-cfVyuMw&quot;,&quot;startTime&quot;:null,&quot;endTime&quot;:null}\" data-component-name=\"Youtube2ToDOM\" class=\"youtube-wrap\">\n<p><iframe src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube-nocookie.com\/embed\/NPy-cfVyuMw?rel=0&amp;autoplay=0&amp;showinfo=0&amp;enablejsapi=0\" frameborder=\"0\" loading=\"lazy\" gesture=\"media\" allow=\"autoplay; fullscreen\" allowautoplay=\"true\" allowfullscreen=\"true\" width=\"728\" height=\"409\"><\/iframe><\/p>\n<\/div>\n<p><span>How do I know? Because women have been leaving comments on my social media, and some have told me in person. After going down on them, I\u2019d hear some version of:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span>\u201cWow. Most men have no idea what they\u2019re doing. That was refreshing.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span>Or, <\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span>\u201cThank you for taking your time.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span>Not every time. But often enough to know it\u2019s a problem.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Why are men so bad at it? Usually one of two reasons: they don\u2019t like doing it, or they have no idea what they\u2019re doing. Good news, my dudes (and women who want to get better at this too): both are fixable. Read on.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I do. I\u2019ve done a lot of it over the years. Sounds vulgar written down, but it is what it is.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>If you\u2019ve been sexually active for a couple of decades, odds are you\u2019ve eaten a lot of pussy or sucked a lot of dick \u2014 and hopefully you\u2019re good at it by now. I can count on one hand the number of times I haven\u2019t gone down on a partner during sex. That\u2019s good news for my lovers, because women love great oral. Most people love great oral.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>But bad oral sex? Nobody wants that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>They say sex is like pizza \u2014 even when it\u2019s bad, it\u2019s still good. I couldn\u2019t disagree more.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Bad oral isn\u2019t \u201cstill good.\u201d At best it\u2019s meh; at worst it hurts, gets awkward, and kills the moment. I\u2019d rather stay home with my dog (RIP Roger!) and a good book. And I\u2019m guessing you feel the same.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Eating pussy is the most efficient way I\u2019ve found to make a woman orgasm \u2014 quicker and more reliably than penetration. Most women can\u2019t come from penetration alone; there has to be clitoral stimulation before or during.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I like it when my partners come, and I try to help them get there before I do \u2014 because, ahem, my interest in continuing tends to drop off once I finish. So she goes first.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Orgasm isn\u2019t the goal of sex. But it\u2019s a hell of a nice side effect, and the more the merrier.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Alright \u2014 five ways to get better at it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Go slow. That means foreplay, and lots of it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Foreplay turns me on and cranks my partner\u2019s arousal way up. It\u2019s a win-win, because women rarely get enough of it \u2014 most guys just stick it in and skip ahead.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Take your time exploring her whole body: her back, her thighs, the backs of her knees, the nape of her neck. Kiss and lick everywhere \u2014 except her pussy. Stay away from it as long as you can. Graze the outer lips, brush her bush, but no direct contact for at least twenty minutes.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Hands off the pussy, homie.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>It drives her wild, and it reminds you that her pussy isn\u2019t the only erogenous zone. Find five spots that make her crazy and remember them for next time. The slower you go, the more worked up she gets. Once she\u2019s writhing and pushing herself toward your mouth, that\u2019s your green light.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Women take longer to reach peak arousal than men do. If you care about her pleasure \u2014 and you know penetration alone usually won\u2019t get her there, no matter how great you think your dick is \u2014 then you\u2019re settling in for more than five minutes. So get cozy as fuck.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Don\u2019t be scrunched up on all fours or sliding off the edge of the bed. Ask her to scoot up and lie on a diagonal so you can get in between her legs without wrecking your neck. The more comfortable you are, the longer and better you\u2019ll last.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Not sure if what you\u2019re doing is working? She\u2019s almost certainly telling you \u2014 you just have to read it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Watch how she moves. Is she rotating her hips in time with you? Pushing into your mouth? Is her skin flushed? Is she moaning? Getting wetter? Grabbing your head and holding it there? Great \u2014 keep doing exactly that.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Then notice what changes when you switch things up: speed, pressure, adding a finger, playing with her nipples, some pressure on her mons. Does it ramp her up or cool her down? Did she go quiet when you moved from steady G-spot pressure to sliding in and out? That\u2019s information \u2014 use it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>And when you want to try something new \u2014 especially somewhere new, like her ass \u2014 ask first. \u201cCan I touch you here?\u201d is hot, not a mood-killer. Surprising someone is how you lose the moment and the trust. Consent is the sexy part, not the speed bump.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Watch her face, her chest, her breathing. She\u2019s giving you nearly everything you need. You just have to look for it.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I\u2019m not a mind reader. Neither are you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I\u2019ve gotten good at reading the nonverbal stuff, but nothing beats actually talking to your partner while you\u2019re down there. I\u2019ve got techniques that reliably work \u2014 but everyone\u2019s different, and what\u2019s perfect for one woman does nothing for another.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Talking about sex during sex is a huge turn-on, and it gets you the exact information you need:<\/span><\/p>\n<blockquote>\n<p><span>\u201cDoes this feel good?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>\u201cConstant pressure on your G-spot, or in-and-out?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>\u201cCircular on your clit, or up and down?\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>\u201cFlat of my tongue or the tip? Here, let me try both \u2014 tell me which you like.\u201d<\/span><\/p>\n<\/blockquote>\n<p><span>Women are turned on by men who can talk about sex during sex. The best way to find out if what you\u2019re doing is working is to ask. Experts don\u2019t guess.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Women aren\u2019t men. You can\u2019t just hammer away at the clit the way you might go at your own dick.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>She takes longer to warm up and longer to come. So settle in, get comfortable, have fun, go slow \u2014 and don\u2019t stop until she asks you to.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Often the orgasm is right around the corner, and if you don\u2019t rush it, you\u2019ve got a much better shot at getting her there. And when she says \u201cdon\u2019t stop\u201d \u2014 do not stop. Don\u2019t change a thing. If your tongue gets sore and your neck cramps up, suck it up and keep going.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>Don\u2019t stop until she physically pulls your face off, or says \u201cyou can stop now,\u201d or \u201cI\u2019d like you to fuck me now.\u201d Until one of those happens, you\u2019re not going anywhere.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>I\u2019ve learned a lot about pleasing women over the years \u2014 especially with my hands and mouth. But the tool I fall back on every time is my words, plus the willingness to listen to what she wants.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>The best way to eat pussy is slowly, with no agenda other than her pleasure. If she\u2019s able to come this way (not everyone can) and your skills are on point, you\u2019ll make her day \u2014 maybe her week, depending on how many useless pussy-eaters came before you.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span>And now I\u2019d love to hear from you. 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