As much as guys talk about women being “crazy,” sometimes men are the ones who portray themselves in this way. Many of them also tend to be way poorer at hiding their true nature than women are.<\/p>\n
Avoiding emotionally unhealthy guys is crucial, and thankfully, it\u2019s pretty easy to see which men aren\u2019t exactly the healthiest options out there. You can do it by paying attention to what they say and spotting the phrases that reveal his true intentions\u2014which are rarely good ones.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Women who know how to spot a man\u2019s true intentions listen for these phrases:<\/h2>\n1. ‘You\u2019re not like most girls, you\u2019re actually cool’<\/h3>\n
Any time you hear a guy talking smack about the entire female gender, you can guarantee that he\u2019s got a bitter, poisonous, and toxic mindset. It may also indicate that he’s a misogynist. Simply put, healthy guys don\u2019t generalize like that and definitely don\u2019t have that much bitterness.<\/p>\n
RELATED: You Can Usually Tell A Man’s Not A Good Person By 7 Things He Cares Way Too Much About<\/strong><\/p>\n This is one of those phrases I\u2019ve said about men, but I can acknowledge that it\u2019s not something healthy to say. I\u2019ve felt the same way about men for a long time. I\u2019m still not 100% sure they’re capable of love, simply because of the abuse and abandonment I\u2019ve faced. However, I also realize I\u2019m not in the best emotional state due to dating-related PTSD.<\/p>\n PTSD will make a partner paranoid, needy, and, at times, act like they have Borderline Personality Disorder, and that can make them very hard to date, if not downright terrible partners. Many abusers, too, will say this to try to entice women into trying to \u201cfix them\u201d and prove that they can love.<\/p>\n No matter how you look at it, no emotionally healthy person will say this, so it might be best to skip them.<\/p>\n If you\u2019ve dated this century, you\u2019ve heard men like this whine about how dating isn\u2019t fair. People who believe in being \u201cgiven a chance\u201d are people who don\u2019t understand how dating works, and tend to see women as objects rather than actual human beings. That said, nice people don\u2019t have to announce they are nice; people will quickly notice.<\/p>\n This is a really outdated way of seeing wolf society, and in real wolf packs, there is no \u201calpha male.\u201d That aside, men who say this tend to have confidence issues with a streak of controlling and misogynistic behavior. They use the word \u201calpha\u201d to rationalize treating others poorly and as a crutch for confidence. This misogynistic outlook isn\u2019t something a healthy man will have.<\/p>\n RELATED: 30 Red Flags You Should Never Ignore When You Start Dating<\/strong><\/p>\n This shows what psychologists call \u201caggrieved entitlement.\u201d Aggrieved entitlement occurs when people think they\u2019re entitled to things that they actually have no right to, and in the case of dating, often signals that they will become abusive: mentally, physically, or emotionally.<\/p>\n The scariest part is that guys who think this way don’t see anything wrong with it, because they literally think they deserve it. Yeah, you don\u2019t want to date this kind of person.<\/p>\n This is one of the major signs he’s not emotionally healthy, because emotionally healthy people realize they need to consider other people\u2019s feelings. If he can\u2019t do that, then he can\u2019t be a healthy partner. If a man says something like this to you, it also shows that he may lack empathy, which is often a sign of personality disorders like narcissism and psychopathy.<\/p>\n A guy who can\u2019t stand the idea of equal rights for women isn\u2019t someone who has a healthy outlook on dating. And this also isn’t someone who respects others, especially women in general. Simply put, there\u2019s no point in trying to establish a partnership with someone who doesn\u2019t see you as worthy of having rights or autonomy.<\/p>\n Once again, this shows bitterness, misogyny, and unhealthy outlooks toward women. It’s toxic, and it’s not a trait you should seek out in men when navigating the dating world. Don’t try to fix men like this; the only person you can change is yourself.<\/p>\n2. ‘I don\u2019t actually believe women feel love’<\/h3>\n
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<\/span> Prostock-studio | Shutterstock<\/span><\/p>\n3. ‘Come on, just give me a fair chance. I\u2019m a nice guy…’<\/h3>\n
4. ‘I\u2019m an alpha male’<\/h3>\n
5. ‘I drove all this way and paid for dinner. You owe me’<\/h3>\n
6. ‘Women are so sensitive’<\/h3>\n
7. ‘Feminism is a disease’<\/h3>\n
8. ‘Women only want men for their money or their looks’<\/h3>\n
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