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There are patterns of behavior that might be able to clue you into the fact that you struggle to make close friends and connect with other people. Maybe you’ve even started to notice that your ‘friends’ only contact you when they need something. (Hint: That’s not a friend.) Having zero ability to connect with others can feel isolating, but it’s not always about bad luck or being unlikable. Rather, certain things you do casually may unintentionally push others away or make it harder to form meaningful relationships.<\/p>\n
People with zero ability to connect often do these things casually:<\/h2>\n1. They’re overly demanding\u00a0<\/h3>\n
You don’t allow people to have any free time for themselves. You expect people to drop everything they’re doing to be there for you. \u00a0Your friends need to have your back, but when you are throwing a fit every time their schedule doesn\u2019t accommodate you, you can’t be surprised when they reevaluate the friendship. \u00a0We all have our own lives, and oftentimes it is important to take care of ourselves first before giving ourselves to others.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you are the friend who doesn’t understand that, it wouldn’t be a stretch for your friends to assume that you don’t respect them. While you may say \u201cOh, if they want to hang out with me all the time, it just means they like me a lot,” the reality is that when you expect your friends’ entire life to revolve around you, it means you don\u2019t respect their time and shows that you believe they don\u2019t exist as an individual outside of your friendship.\u00a0<\/p>\n
Sometimes you might not be doing this maliciously and just need some good old-fashioned communication.\u00a0But if you find yourself reacting angrily, manipulatively, etc., that’s a sign that you don\u2019t respect those around you, and it is time to self-reflect.\u00a0<\/p>\n
RELATED: 13 Tiny Red Flags That Reveal You\u2019re In An Unequal Friendship<\/strong><\/p>\n2. People who struggle to connect are often flaky<\/h3>\n
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<\/span> Ekateryna Zubal \/ Shutterstock<\/span><\/p>\nThis one is tricky because I\u2019ll admit, there are times when I am a little hard to get a hold of. Sometimes when you are dealing with stuff in your own life, having to respond to texts can seem like a herculean task. \u00a0It is okay to flake sometimes; we can\u2019t always be there for our friends, and that’s okay \u2014 that doesn\u2019t make you a bad friend if you sometimes find yourself dipping out to take care of your mental health.\u00a0<\/p>\n
However, if you’re the friend who consistently flakes out on everyone, this might be a sign of a bigger problem. You constantly ditch the plans you made together to go do something you think is \u201ccooler,\u201d or make up half-baked excuses to keep everyone out of the loop. When someone consistently fails to follow through, it sends a message that they can’t be relied upon, making it difficult for others to trust their intentions or commitments.\u00a0<\/p>\n
RELATED: 10 Signs A Friend Is A Backstabber (And You Need To Protect Yourself) <\/strong><\/p>\n3. They belittle others to make themselves seem cooler\u00a0<\/h3>\n
This happened to me all the time during high school; if there was a boy my friend wanted to impress and we were all hanging out in a group, my friend suddenly became a late-night comedian. Playful insults when you two are together can be fine as long as they are balanced out with healthy doses of love.\u00a0But when it is in front of strangers, and you’re bringing up that one time they completely embarrassed themselves to get a laugh out of this random person you don\u2019t know, it can feel like a betrayal of trust.\u00a0<\/p>\n
If you immediately make them the punchline to all your jokes, then it shows that you don\u2019t take the relationship seriously.\u00a0It shows that they are a joke to you, and therefore means that you don\u2019t respect them as much as they should. Again, sometimes you might not be doing this maliciously, so\u00a0it is important to listen when your friends are brave enough to communicate how they feel.\u00a0<\/p>\n
4. People like this get jealous super-easily\u00a0<\/h3>\n
Friends are supposed to support each other. Of course, it is normal to get a little jealous when your life is in the toilet, while your friend is once again getting promoted at their new job, which they love. \u00a0But ultimately, you hopefully like your friend more than you are jealous of them. So when they do something great, you celebrate it. \u00a0But a bad friend gets jealous of everything good in your life. Whether it be a new partner, a new job, or a cool opportunity, they always react negatively.<\/p>\n
They are always cutting, snarky, and always say something cruel to make you second-guess your accomplishments. If you have a friend like this, it shows they don\u2019t want you to succeed. Studies have found that while some degree of jealousy can be a normal human emotion, allowing it to escalate unchecked can create a toxic environment that fosters negativity and ultimately sabotages our ability to develop close friendships. If you have a friend who sees every good thing in your life as a competition, it might be time to cut them out. If you want to improve yourself, you can\u2019t have people who see any progress you make in your life as something negative.\u00a0<\/p>\n
RELATED: 12 Ways To Know If Your Friend Is Taking You For Granted<\/strong><\/p>\nJessica Xing is a writer who covers astrology, pop culture, relationships, and media.<\/em><\/p>\nRelated Stories From YourTango:<\/span><\/div>\n<\/div>\n
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